Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Guest Posting!

Still no reception photos. :( I know I keep saying this, but I'll hopefully have them soon! In the meantime, I had to share this post with you - I actually wrote it as a guest post for Amy over at Little Miss Wedding Planner who got married this past Saturday, but it's something I've been wanting to blog about for a loong time. You can read it here if you want, but make sure you still head over there and tell her congratulations! (I've successfully stalked her on facebook and she looked absolutely gorgeous!)

If you've followed this blog, it’s pretty obvious that I love weddings. I honestly enjoyed every part of our planning process and I especially loved blogging about it, reading other blogs and finding inspiration from them, and ‘meeting’ other brides. Unfortunately, I think there’s one downside to weddings today being all over the internet - Brides lose sight of the fact that each of those weddings is a celebration of two real people’s relationship. There’s so much judgment and forgetting that the point of a wedding isn’t the pretty pictures, the trendy details, or the hope of being blogged/featured in a magazine.

I’ve always loved crafty things, but I’d never really had a reason to be crafty aside from scrapbooking or making gifts. My wedding was a chance for me to enjoy tons of DIY projects and craft until I was sick of it. I loved that those details reflected my personality and hobbies. My husband, David, and I also decided we wanted to put as little financial burden on my parents as possible and that we didn’t want to go into debt for our wedding. It was our decision as a couple to have a budget wedding for 250+ guests.

Did I love our wedding? You bet I did!! But do I love weddings that have absolutely no DIY projects and cost $30,000? You bet I do! I love that each wedding is a reflection of a loving relationship and exactly what the bride and groom wanted. No bride has any right or reason to think that some detail of another wedding is ‘tacky’ (PLEASE get rid of that word!) just because she chose not to do it. You hate the dollar dance? Don’t do it. You’re convinced a first look is the only way to go? Have one. And let everyone else choose what works for them.

I can’t say that I’ve never made a comment about a picture of someone’s wedding on facebook or one of the weddings on TV (Four Weddings, anyone?), but I’m seriously making an honest effort to get rid of that negativity. The wedding blog/bride blogger network is such a great one - The only thing that would make it better is a huge push to eliminate the judgmental attitude that’s become so popular.

Ok, stepping off my soap box now. Do you agree or disagree?

10 comments:

  1. I definitely agree with you and have been guilty of making snarky comments myself...though mainly when watching Bridezillas b/c those chicks are nuts! haha.

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  2. Amen, sister! I'm going to comment over on Amy's blog, too :) I think my guest post goes up today, too!!

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  3. completely agree! Thanks for putting this into words for me!

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  4. Totally agree! I wish we (women, collectively) didn't get so caught up in the details all of the time and took a minute to step back and see the love between the husband and wife, and all of the beautiful people in their lives standing by to support them.

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  5. Completely agree! I feel bad having negative thoughts about others weddings and things and I've been trying to stop myself!

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  6. AMEN! I love the show Four Weddings so I can see four weddings! But I hate how they rip apart people. Even if it's not something YOU like, they probably like it. Like, ok, if they don't feed you and didn't warn you- yes, judge. You're hungry and angry! But her dress isn't silk? You hate lace? Her band played (gasp!) 80's music? Get a life!!! I'm totally over the judging after planning my own wedding!

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  9. I agree whole heartedly. I love weddings and each couple is unique with their likes and dislikes and it shows their weddings. It is a celebration of their love and who they are.

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  10. I agreed on Amy's blog and I'll agree here too. I also echo everything KJ brought up. If it's not your wedding, you're there as a guest, not a judge and you should act accordingly.

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