Today's guest post is from Amy, who I've gotten to know through Twitter over the last couple months. She's so sweet and helpful, and I absolutely love her blog! This is a subject I haven't blogged much about, so I'm excited to see the responses to this post!
Hi, Lucky in Love readers! My name is Amy and I blog over at Little Miss Wedding Planner. I am so happy for Laura & David and so honored to be guest blogging here! I have been following Laura’s blog and wedding plans for quite some time, so it is so exciting to see the wedding finally here!
Today I want to talk about something that doesn’t actually have a whole lot to do with wedding planning. Today, I want to talk about something I call The Baby Boom—not the one in the 50s, but the one that seems to be taking place in my own life right now!
I don’t know about you guys, but I am at the age where all of my friends are starting to get engaged and married. This summer alone, we are invited to 5 weddings, aside from our own! And of course, you know the old line: “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage!”
My first friend to get married was my best friend from high school. She actually married almost 5 years ago now, and got pregnant a year or so later. My cousin also had my lovely goddaughter (our flower girl!) around the same time. Two other friends of mine got married in late 2009 (twin sisters, coincidentally), and both got pregnant with honeymoon babies. One of my very best friends is getting married next year, and she too is planning on a honeymoon baby. And just last night, a dear friend who was married in December announced that she is also pregnant…thus, I was suddenly struck by the inevitable Baby Boom that occurs when you’re in your mid to late twenties. While I am no doubt happy for all of my friends and family, I still sometimes find myself asking this question: “Don’t they just want to be married for awhile?”
(Source – I love their expressions in this picture…the kid on the left and the kid second from the right are definitely making the face I make when thinking about this subject…sort of a “Huh? What the ?!”)
Many of you may know that I used to teach ballet to three-year-olds (I just “retired” from doing that last month), and as evidenced above, I am surrounded by pregnancy and babies…heck, I even confessed to reading a ton of baby & pregnancy blogs lately! I definitely love kids and both my fiancé & I are excited to have some of our own…but we are not planning on having children right away. I never thought I’d say this, but it feels like we’re sort of in the minority on this on…everybody else in our lives seem to be getting pregnant—and getting pregnant quick!
So what’s behind our decision? Well, our reasoning is simple. Although we’ve been together almost 7 years and have lived together for about 5, we really just want to be married for awhile. If it happens by accident, of course we’ll be excited and thrilled. But in an ideal world (and as long as I take my BC correctly!), we are definitely not planning on getting pregnant until about 2 years after our wedding. It might sound selfish, but we’d like to take some really fun trips…buy a house…and have the freedom to do whatever we want whenever we want, without worrying about kids yet.
As I said above, lately, I’ve felt as though I am in the minority on this topic…so, I’m curious. Where do you and your fiancé stand on this issue? Of course I want to know if you agree with me, but I am really interested in hearing from those of you who want to have children right away. What are your motivations? Is it just that you’re ready? Is it an age thing? If you feel comfortable, please share your thoughts (and if you plan to write a baby blog, please share that, too—because you know I love me some of those!)